Co-Parenting With Narcissist: Things To Know

 Co-parenting is really a hard job, especially with narcissistic spouses. Sometimes, the task looks impossible at times. The big challenge of life is parenting, as narcissists may push you down, test your patience and boundaries.

Co-parenting brings unique challenges, needs cooperative thinking to overcome the hurdles. Cooperation leads to a better life but co-parenting with a narcissist is the opposite of this.

Co-Parenting With Narcissist

A narcissist is actually a person with mental disorders, man has an inflated sense of his own importance. Such a person needs a lure for excessive attention and admiration. Narcissists troubled relationships and lack of empathy for others.

1. Marriage to Narcissist:

The craziest decision of life is to marry a narcissistic person. He blames his spouse for everything. A narcissist partner fights over trivial matters verbally and physically insults spouse, tends to control, and often does hurtful things.

Many couples pretend to look happy, spouses being physically abused. They hide bruises on the body with make-up and clothing. The narcissist ignores the spouse, forgets the promises which look inconvenient.

Narcissist gets furious as partner talks about unfair behavior, generally unwilling to accept any responsibility. He may lie, twist the truth, shift blame and present himself as a real victim. He only does tasks for personal satisfaction, doesn't care about partner happiness.

2. Dating a Narcissist:

Dating a narcissist is a hard thing to depict, impact on lives including money management, career, and most important relationship.

It is very hard to spot a narcissist at a first glance, maybe charismatic, charming, and confident. The relationship starts too fast, but gradual movement in the relationship leads to discouraging, abusing, and devaluing. If you commit to the narcissist, his behavior flips, become less attentive, inconsistent, and become self-centered.

Narcissists are self-centered, put their needs first. Your experience will be more disastrous than with a date. You might isolate yourself from friends, controlled by him when to go out, what to wear.

3. Divorcing a Narcissist:

Divorce is never been an easy path, even both parties have agreed on undisputed agreements and conditions. Conversely, divorcing a narcissist can be more traumatic than expected.

A narcissist does not like to lose anything. The best way to get a divorce from the narcissist is to consult the best lawyer and hire him. The experienced lawyer can give you the best advice and take out all information from the narcissist in the court.

A Narcissist spouse will blame you for this tragedy and put this fault on your shoulders. He tries his best to protect his so-called self-ego. You should expect that your spouse can use friends, family, children, and property against you.

Divorcing a narcissist may not be an easy task, but remain in a toxic relationship may take your life, harm you emotionally and physically. Therefore, necessary to take care of your mental health and physical well-being during and after divorce proceedings. A narcissist does not like to lose, be prepared to fight a battle with your all legal weapons in hand.

4. Narcissist's Eyebrows:

The study published in April 2018 in the Journal of Personality is titled, "Eyebrows cue grandiose narcissism", and suggests that people with bushier eyebrows are more likely to act self-centered and entitled.

The researchers flipped the images upside down just to ensure the hawkeye at the individual facial features one by one, rather than grouping them together. They asked a group of 27 volunteers to rate these images.

During a third of the experiment, they put opaque black boxes over the photo subjects mainly eyes or eyebrows then asked the volunteers to rate the narcissism as they perceived just to see which facial feature tipped them off.

                        

The researchers found that the volunteers were able to point out photos of the narcissists when they were exposed to both eyes and eyebrows. They were inaccurate when just shown eyes, but when exposed to eyebrows they were easily identified.

The researchers further classified the eyebrows subject in terms of density, shape, appearance, and distinctiveness. They disclosed that photos with distinct and obvious facial features were more likely to be portrayed as narcissists, while grooming style, density, and shape did not play the role.

5. Covert Narcissist Husband:

Covert narcissistic husbands are emotionally disengaged persons. They are passionate towards and perceived demands such as love. Initially, the husband is an ardent lover and responsive, eager to please, fades as the relationship is established.

Covert Narcissist Husband

He forgets spousal requests, makes no efforts to correct the mistakes. Covert husband forgets wife weekend trip plans, accidentally plans a trip which he likes not the spouse, sometimes suddenly cancels the trip without consulting wife. The wife stops planning due to these consequences, prefers to stay with children, especially for pleasure because feels his covert misery.

6. Covert Narcissist Mother:

Narcissist traits also appear in the mother, she over defends her children. The defense of mom for children has not left the children alone, as the development stages are highly affected.

Covert mom establishes her needs first, this makes mom priority cycle more complex. She tries to handle children at each stage of their life.

Covert narcissist mom controls the primary role of the life, feels jealousy, and even does not let husband spend some quality time with husband. She tends to resolve the problems with punishment, this act highly affects the children's individual development. 

7. How to Turn on Narcissist Sexually?

Narcissist perceives sex in terms of annexation, does not take the blame for anything if go wrong. When you first get together, narcissist seems considerable, devoted and passionate to spend time in the bed.

As time goes on, you may notice some persistent red flags in the behavior, began to criticize and devalue you. He lashes out sometimes, ignores you completely. A narcissist looks for a lot of praise in the bed.

So to avoid all these traumas,

1. Try to please narcissists first then yourself, make praise compliments during the sex. 
2. This act will boost him up and pleases you as well.
3. Try to find positions that please him most.
4. Talk to him more gently and with patience

8. How to Know if Narcissist is Finished with You?

A narcissist needs extra attention when people often do not fulfill needs then narcissist reacts with these conditions:

1. Become extremely demanding, hostile, or even violent.
2. Narcissist tries emotional methods to control you, uses exaggerated and emotional ailments to reel you back.
3. Try to win over you with fake love promises and expressions.
4. Pretends to ignore you, tries to convince you how long you are wrong and discarding.
5. Avoid spending some quality time with you especially in public places.
6. Irritates you all the time, do not care if you are crying over him.